Over dromen, plannen en de angst voor mislukking

De angst om fouten te maken en om te mislukken is misschen wel de grootste factor in het niet durven waarmaken van dromen en plannen.

In onzekere tijden en met een slechte economie is het gemakkelijker om op safe te spelen.

Maar… aan het op veilig spelen zijn ook risico’s verbonden.

Al je nooit durft mislukken, zal de meetlat van je succes nooit erg hoog liggen.
Velen onderschatten hun eigen talent en de kans om terug recht te krabbelen na een tegenslag.

Als je de biografieën van succesvolle mensen leest, zal je zien dat zij dikwijls eerst grote tegenslagen kenden.
Pas door vol te houden en opnieuw te proberen, kenden zij succes.

 

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Hieronder een aantal standpunten die je kunnen helpen om bepaalde kansen aan te grijpen en om je angst voor mislukking te overwinnen.

 

1. Sta eens stil bij het verlies van die gemiste kansen.

Veel mensen staan er niet bij stil maar het grootste risico van die angst is het verlies van de gemiste kansen.

Als je geen risico wil/durft nemen, kan je ook al je kansen niet benutten.

 

2. Wat zijn de alternatieven ?

Ik had al gezegd dat de angst voor het onbekende een grote oorzaak is van de angst om te mislukken. Als je niet weet waar je mee te maken hebt, dan lijken de mogeljike gevolgen nog erger dan ze eigenlijk zijn.

Probeer je angst voor het onbekende te begrijpen.
Zo ontneem je die angst zijn macht  over jou.

Sta stil bij alle mogelijke uitkomsten en gevolgen (zowel goede als slechte) .
Zo krijg je zicht op het risico van een eventuele mislukking EN op de voordelen en het succes als je slaagt.

Analizeer deze resultaten.
Zo kan je een logische beslissing maken zonder  je te laten leiden door je angsten.

 

3. Relativeer je worst case scenario

In de bestseller van Tim Ferris , Een werkweek van 4 uur, zegt de auteur dat het mogelijk is om een rijk leven te leiden zonder hard te werken. Hij schrijft dat je de dingen moet doen waar je een passie voor hebt.
Ergens in het boek komt de auteur met de volgende vraag…

Als je achter je droom aangaat en je mislukt volledig, hoe lang duurt het dan voor je weer overeind gekrabbeld bent ?

Het antwoord op deze vraag is waarschijnlijk minder lang dan je verwacht.
Waarschijnlijk ben je binnen een half jaar weer aan de gang.

Is jouw angst voor een eventuele moeilijk periode (van een paar maanden) groter dan het liever blijven hangen in een middelmatige situatie waarin je je niet goed voelt? Stof tot nadenken.

 

4. Soms zijn er ook voordelen aan falen

Emerson zei :

Het leven is een reeks experimenten; hoe meer je er maakt, hoe beter.

Elke keer als er iets misgaat, is dat een oefening of test voor je experiment en een kans om te groeien en te leren.

 

5. Maak een noodplan

Een andere manier om met je angst om te mislukken om te gaan, is om een noodplan achter de hand te hebben.

Met een weloverwogen noodplan kan je – indien je plan mislukt – nog allerlei zaken redden.

Het is niet omdat je een noodplan klaar hebt en dat je de sprong durft wagen, dat je bij voorbaat gaat mislukken.
Als je op een intelligente manier met je ondernemingenen plannen omgaat, kan je alle voordelen van je risico’s grijpen en toch steunen op je noodplan.

 

6. Durf  actie te nemen !

De beste manier om je angst te verkleinen en om vertrouwen op te bouwen is eenvoudig :

BEGIN ER AAN.
WACHT NIET.

De eerste keer is altijd de moeilijkste.
Eens je de sprong waagt, begin je vertrouwen en kennis op te bouwen.

 

7. Verbrand je schepen

Wanneer de oude Grieken op oorlogspad vertrokken en de zeeën overstaken, staken ze hun schepen in brand als ze op het strand landden.

Behalve met een overwinning, was er dus geen enkele manier om thuis te geraken. Zo werd de vastberadenheid van de soldaten nog eens extra versterkd.

Als enkel succes of mislukken de enige opties zijn, heb je geen andere keuze dan je 100% in te zetten.

Het is wel een radicale methode maar als je een depaalde droom hebt en je durft je niet volledig engageren, dan moet je misschien al je schepen verbranden.

Je angst om te stoppen verdwijnt dikwijls als je beseft dat je die angst niet meer als excuus kan gebruiken.

 

Heb jij ook dromen en plannen waaraan je niet durft te beginnen ?
Wat houdt je tegen ?

By Ingrid V.

Creatieve 1000-poot en freelance trainer met interesses als GTD, productiviteit, persoonlijke ontwikkeling, management, blogging, technologie,

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