Met deze vragen haal je het beste uit een minder goede dag

 

 “To affect the quality of the day, that is the highest of arts.”

Henry David Thoreau

Op sommige dagen loopt alles van een leien dakje.
Je wordt uitgerust wakker en de hele dag gaat alles zoals je wou.

Maar er zijn ook zo van die dagen waarop alles fout loopt.
Murphy loopt de hele dag naast je en hij zegt ” If anything can go ……”

Wat kan je doen op zo’n dag ?
Hieronder vind je 5 vragen die je misschien kunnen helpen om op een optimistischer en constructiever manier naar je dag te kijken.

Vraag 1. Maak ik een olifant van een mug?

Van een mug een olifant maken is soms een onbewuste gewoonte.

Het begint met een klein probleem waarover je blijft nadenken en piekeren.
Voor je het weet is dat kleine probleem een onoplosbaar probleem dat voortdurend in je gedachten blijft spoken.

Als je merkt dat je steeds blijft piekeren over kleine problemen, sta dan even stil bij deze vraag.
“Maak ik van een mug een olifant ?”

Er zij maar weinig dingen die echt onder de noemer “olifant” vallen. 
Meestal ben je zelf verantwoordelijk voor het ontstaan van je olifant doordat je te lang blijft denken en piekeren. Of omdat je je laat beïnvloeden door negatieve mensen. 

Vraag 2. Zijn er misschien anderen die het nog slechter hebben dan ik ?

Als het soms wat minder goed loopt en er zijn wat problemen of je hebt wat tegenslag, dan voelen we ons snel een slachtoffer. We klagen en zien alleen nog maar de slechte kant.

Gebruik dan eens deze vraag om alles weer in het juiste perspectief te zien.
“Wie heeft het op dit ogenblik nog slechter dan ik.”

Het antwoord op deze vraag herinnert je eraan dat er wel veel is in je leven om dankbaar om te zijn.
Deze vraag verandert je perspectief : van een eng en egocentrisch naar een veel breder.
Zo zie je je probleem of tegenslag ineens anders.

Vraag 3.  Wat kan ik leren van deze situatie ? Bestaat er een kans om hier beter van te worden ?

In bijna alle gevallen kan je iets leren en krijg je de kans om dingen te verander en bij te sturen.

Als je terugkijkt op sommige negatieve gebeurtenissen , dan merk je dat juist die dingen de aanzet waren voor een nieuwe en positieve wending . Deze gebeurtenissen zorgden ervoor dat je leven op dat moment een positieve wending nam.

Vraag 4. Met welke kleine stap kan ik de bal aan het rollen doen gaan zodat deze situatie/dit probleem beweegt ?

Blijf niet te lang piekeren over je probleem.
Blijf niet bezig met negatieve gedachten.
Maak van jezelf geen slachtoffer

Wat kan je nu doen aan de situatie ? 
Zet die eerste stap en zorg ervoor dat de bal aan het rollen gaat .

Hoe klein of minimaal je actie is, doe,het !
Meestal voel je je nadien beter en meer opgelucht.

Vraag 5. Kan ik ook gewoon aanvaarden dat ik me nu slecht voel ?

Sommige problemen kunnen niet direct aangepakt worden.
Maar dat wil nog altijd niet zeggen dat je je slecht moet blijven voelen.

Stel jezelf deze vraag : “Kan ik ook gewoon aanvaarden dat ik me nu slecht voel ?”

Probeer te aanvaarden dat je je nu gewoon slecht, verdrietig, teleurgesteld, …. voelt. Het is geen schande om je zo te voelen. Probeer deze negatieve gevoelens niet te verbergen

Aanvaard deze negatieve gevoelens . Zo voorkom je dat je hierover steeds blijft piekeren en denken. Anders verspil je onbewust zo veel energie en maak je die negatieve gedachten en gevoelens sterker en sterker.
Aanvaard deze negatieve gevoelens en en zal snel merken dat ze vanzelf minder sterk worden.

By Ingrid V.

Creatieve 1000-poot en freelance trainer met interesses als GTD, productiviteit, persoonlijke ontwikkeling, management, blogging, technologie,

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