Uitstellen – deel 2 : Enkele feiten

Dit is het tweede deel van een reeks over uitstellen.
Lees ook
Uitstellen – deel 0 : een opwarmertje
Uitstellen – deel 1 : Wat is procrastinatie en wat zijn de effecten ?  

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Je wordt niet als een uitsteller geboren.

Er zijn meerdere manieren om success in je leven uit de weg te gaan, maar de meest doeltreffende is toch procrastinatie of het uitstellen van dingen.
Uitstellers saboteren zichzelf. Ze plaveien hun eigen weg met obstakels.

Waarom doet men dit toch ?
Hieronder een aantal feiten die ik her en der bij elkaar heb gesprokkeld.

#1

20 % van de mensen beschouwen zichzelf als een chronische uitsteller. Uitstellen is een manier van leven, alhoewel dit een verre van doeltreffende manier is.  Dit uitstellen heeft invloed op alle gebied van hun leven.

  • Ze betalen hun rekeningen niet op tijd.
  • Ze zijn te laat met het bestellen van tickets.
  • Ze kopen kerstkadootjes pas de laatste dag.
  • Ze missen die mooie aanbieding omdat ze te lang wachten.

#2

Uitstellen is GEEN probleem van timemanagement of van een goede planning.
Het is niet zo dat uitstellers hun tijd niet kunnen inschatten (alhoewel onderzoek wel heeft aangetoond dat zij net iets optimistischer omgaan met hun tijd)

#3

Zoals ik al eerder zei: je wordt niet als uitsteller geboren. Deze manier van handelen wordt je geleerd door je omgeving, maar niet op een directe manier.
Het is een antwoord op een autoritaire opvoeding. Een strenge en controlerende vader ontneemt zijn kinderen de manier om zichzelf te organiseren, om hun eigen doelen te ontwikkelen en hiernaar te handelen

#4

Uitstellers zijn niet eerlijk tegen zichzelf.

  • “Ik denk dat ik dat eigenlijk morgen wel zal doen.”
  • “Ik stel het nog even uit, want ik werk beter onder tijdsdruk.”

Ze beschermen zichzelf door zich wijs te maken dat al die taken niet zo dringend en belangrijk zijn.

Een andere leugen is ook dat ze zogezegd creatiever worden  door de tijdsdruk.
Maar dit is uiteraard niet waar: ze worden niet creatiever, ze hebben enkel die indruk.

#5

Procrastinators zoeken actief naar afleidingen, vooral degenen die niet te veel engagement verlangen.

  • Email checken (de top 1)
  • Nog even de online krant lezen
  • Nog  vlug iets te drinken halen en dan zo een babbeltje doen met collega’s.
  • Facebook en Twitter lezen…

#6

Uitstellers kan je onderverdelen in 3 basis typen:

  • Degenen die de opwinding zoeken: ze wachten tot het laatste moment om die euforische kick te beleven.
  • De ontwijkers: ze ontwijken de angst om te mislukken of zelfs de angst voor succes. Ze zijn in iedere geval erg bezorgd om wat anderen van hen denken. Ze verkiezen duidelijk dat anderen denken dat ze moeite en inspanning missen dan dat ze competentie missen.
  • De uitstellers en het nemen van besluiten : ze kunnen eigenlijk  geen echte beslissing nemen. Door geen besluiten te nemen, stellen ze zichzelf vrij van de uiteindelijke resultaten en gevolgen van gebeurtenissen.

#7

Er hangt een groot prijskaartje aan uitstellen.
Gezondheid is er eentje. Uit een onderzoek bij studenten die zich verstoppen achter uitstelgedrag is gebleken dat zij meer last hebben van verkoudheden, griep en zelfs gastro-intestinale problemen. Sommige studenten hadden last van slapeloosheid.

Ook naar anderen toe is de kostprijs van uitstellen hoog. Uitstellen verschuift de last van al de verantwoordelijkheden naar anderen, die als reactie hierop daar een gevoel van verontwaardiging overhouden. Uitstellen is nefast voor teamwork.

#8

Uistellers kunnen hun gedrag wel veranderen maar dit vergt een grote hoeveelheid psychische energie. En de interne mentaliteit van uitstellers verandert uiteindelijk ook niet direct. Om dit op te vangen is cognitieve gedragstherapie het meest geschikt.

 

Heb jij hier nog iets aan toe te voegen ?
Stel niet uit  🙂 en laat je commentaar hier achter.

By Ingrid V.

Creatieve 1000-poot en freelance trainer met interesses als GTD, productiviteit, persoonlijke ontwikkeling, management, blogging, technologie,

44 comments

  1. Eindelijk eens eens een diepgaander artikel over uitstelgedrag. Erg interessant. Ik vraag me nu al tijden af waarom ik toch maar blíjf uitstellen. Ik maak steeds weer een planning, maar dat werkt niet. Bovendien zit daar ‘t probleem niet, want eerder kreeg ik mijn werk ook wel op tijd af terwijl ik toen nooit een planning maakte. Het laatste feit dat uitstellers gedragstherapie nodig zouden hebben, komt op mij in eerste instantie nogal drastisch over. Maar miss moet ik morgen toch maar ‘s een psycholoog bellen, want ik ben inmiddels een chronische uitsteller geworden. Het is een gewoonte geworden, en dat terwijl ik altijd zo’n gedisciplineerde harde werker was. Dit begint gewoon uit de hand te lopen; ik heb ‘t gevoel dat ik ‘t zelf niet meer in de hand heb iig.

  2. Dag Coco, bedankt voor je commentaar.

    Misschien kan je de volgende 2 zaken eens proberen.
    1) Maak eens een planning voor je komende dag of week. Schrijf deze ook effectief uit op papier en zet bij elke taak een BEGINTIJDSTIP . Probeer de komende week eens of je dat tijdstip voor jou een trigger kan zijn om ook echt effectief te beginnen. Soms kan zo’n kleine toevoeging helpen.

    2) Als je na een week merkt dat het bovenstaande niet voor jou werkt, maak dan eens een soort logboek.
    Maak voor jezelf een overzicht van de taken die je vandaag en de komende week gaat doen. Zet er weer dat begintijdstip bij.
    Probeer aan het einde van de voormiddag (voor lunch) en aan het einde van je werkdag eens te evalueren wat er allemaal gebeurde dat ervoor zorgde dat jij niet aan je geplande taak begon. Was dit een externe oorzaak ( zoals onverwachte telefoontjes, een rapport dat ineens binnenkwam, ..) of lag de oorzaak echt bij jou (te veel babbelen met collega’s, surfen, mails checken, ..) Als je dit een weekje doet, krijg je misschien een idee van wat er jou van je geplande taken afhoudt. Soms kan het een combinatie zijn van extern en intern : je bent gemotiveerd om om 10 uur aan die taak te beginnen. Dan komt dat onverwachte telefoontje of die vraag van je collega en hierdoor ben je dan zo afgeleid van je focus, dat je je niet meer kan committen voor je geplande taak.
    Wees in ieder geval niet te streng voor jezelf. Uitstel gedrag is menselijk. Er zijn veel mensen die hiermee kampen maar weinigen die het zelf beseffen en nog minder die moedig genoeg zijn om dit onder ogen te zien.
    Ik ben eens benieuwd naar de uitkomst van je logboek.
    Vriendelijke groeten!
    Ingrid

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